Sole custody of a child means that one parent has the right to make all decisions regarding the upbringing of their child. Joint custody means that both parents have the same rights when making decisions about their child’s upbringing.If you(These are the two types of custody that the legal community is increasingly referring to as “decision making”.If you)

Sole custody

When you have sole custody of your child, you can make all the decisions related to issues such as school, religion, medical care, and housing. With sole legal concern, you do not have to take into account the wishes or opinions of the other parent regarding the upbringing of your child.

What is sole custody?

Sole custody is a type of custody that gives a parent the right to make important, long-term decisions about their child. This can include aspects of parenting, including education and health care.

Joint custody

In most courts, parents have joint custody. In joint custody, both parents share decisions about the upbringing of the child. Both parents need to communicate with each other and make a joint decision on issues such as school, religion, medical care and housing.

If you have joint custody and let your ex out of the decision-making process, you could be found in disregard of the court.

What is joint custody?

Joint custody means that both parents have the legal authority to make important decisions for the child. This includes choices related to education, religion, and health care.

Example of joint custody

Look at John and Jean, who have two children. They share joint custody and John has physical custody. The children live with John, but Jean has the same legal rights as John in making important decisions about the children.

John is very angry with Jean for betraying him and leaving him to raise the children when she picked another man over him. In John’s opinion, Jean gave up every right to say this about the children’s lives when she gave up marriage and left her children.

John stubbornly refuses to communicate with Jean and often makes decisions about the children without first getting input from Jean. Because of his behavior, John opens the door to Jean to take him to court for contempt. And if she so chooses, she can request a change of custody as John refuses to grant her legal rights in court.

If you feel that you and your ex are unable to communicate and raise your children together, you should consider seeking sole custody. Note, however, that most states prefer to have joint custody.If youIn other words, when it comes to custody, the best thing to do is to get rid of your anger and treat your ex civilly for the benefit of your children.

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Example of sole custody

Frank and Diana had been married for eight years and have two children under the age of six. Frank has a history of physical abuse against Diana, sometimes in front of the children. Diana was able to use hospital records and police reports to prove in court that Frank is a violent husband. The judge gave Diana the sole Custody of Frank with a supervised visit.

Frank was also instructed to take anger management classes before the judge lifted the order for supervised visits. In a case like this, where domestic abuse has occurred in the past, it is not uncommon for non-violent parents to be given sole custody.If youIf you

In doing so, the court knows that the custody parent would not be safe if he had to share questions about the children with the abusive party. To keep the caring parents safe and to ensure that his tendency to become violent does not affect the children, the courts do what is in the best interests of all concerned. However, Frank has the option of controlling his temper or risking becoming a virtual stranger to his children.