Children learn what they see

Sandy feels as if her parents were too scared of money. Both parents seldom saw each other as equals, their monetary differences would only confuse Sandy. Conversations about money were guilt-based. Instead of objectively explaining that toys and travel cost money, they told her, “We’re going to lose the house, there isn’t enough money month to month.” If the conflict turned, Sandy would shut down and not respond. “That plagues me in my relationships to this day and it requires conscious effort to communicate my feelings as I never really learned how to do it effectively / honestly.” Children learn our worst and our best habits.